Thoughts: Finding Our Stride

Dear Nathan, I think we've done it. Finally found our stride, that is. We got married, moved, you started a new job, I started working from home, I started booking weddings, we moved again, we went out of the country. All in seven months. And I think it's starting to feel normal. We're starting to feel normal.

Remember how before we got married we had no idea what to expect? No one says that marriage will be one of the biggest life changes you'll ever experience. I guess that's because it's common sense. But even if you try to prepare for marriage the best way you know how, you're really just caught up in the flurry of the wedding and the honeymoon and the hundreds of details and then you're there. You're married. You don't realize what it will be like until its upon you and you're living with a boy and sharing TV shows and cooking meals together. As weird as those things were in the beginning, those are some of my favorite things now.

Remember how I was worried about losing my sense of independence? I know it's selfish to think that way, but as much as I was looking forward to being married, I was also unsure of how it would change me—and us—even though I know how you are and know that you would never let me give up my sense of self. And guess what? You've held steady just like you always do. You've always been more patient and rational than I am. And now I can't imagine going back to that old life; it's too good here.

It's been a whirlwind, but I'm so thankful for that whirlwind. I'm so thankful to be married to you. Here's to the next seven months.

Love, Lane

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